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Cake day: July 20th, 2023

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  • You’re taking the wrong path, I see some things that you may not be considering.

    Friendships don’t need to be defined by beginnings and ends. The gentlest way to cool a friendship is to spend less time with them.

    Spending time within someone you find attractive doesn’t screw with your psyche. An internal cycle of hope and rejection does.

    She already rejected you, you said it in the post. ‘Its not the right time’ is not an invitation to wait, it’s a gentle no (and it’s much worse approach than just saying no). Accept it and move on. If your thoughts wander to oh but maybe we could be together if I do something - remind yourself she said no. If you need further clarification ask again.

    Threatening to end the friendship for a romantic relationship has zero good outcomes. If you can’t handle the rejection or don’t want to be her friend, then stop making time to see her. The only reason to explain that it is ‘because you want more’, is the thought that it will change her mind - remember emotional manipulation is gross and rapey but don’t worry you haven’t done it yet. Thinking about things isn’t doing them.

    Also, you sound like a young man, so I just want to affirm that the drive to have sex can be wild strong, and make clear thinking hard. It’s okay, just remember you don’t want be with someone who you can get to agree to a relationship with you, you want to be with someone who wants to be in a relationship with you. Everyone is worth that much.



  • Sounds more like a hardware issue. Screen black, like it goes off no output? Any visual glitching first? Desktop doesn’t respond? How do you know, is it sounds stop or make funny noise?

    Search inside the system? Open taps? Not sure what this means

    Can you restart the computer? Or will the distro not boot after this?

    And this doesn’t happen in Windows?


  • "This initiative calls to require publishers that sell or license videogames to consumers in the European Union (or related features and assets sold for videogames they operate) to leave said videogames in a functional (playable) state.

    Specifically, the initiative seeks to prevent the remote disabling of videogames by the publishers, before providing reasonable means to continue functioning of said videogames without the involvement from the side of the publisher.

    The initiative does not seek to acquire ownership of said videogames, associated intellectual rights or monetization rights, neither does it expect the publisher to provide resources for the said videogame once they discontinue it while leaving it in a reasonably functional (playable) state."

    Right there in black and white, one click away. There is no attempt to force companies to keep servers running, if you have a single player game then it can’t remotely destroyed by requiring a server connection that gets taken down without a patch to remove that requirement.










  • Cold turkey worked for me. Took me 4 attempts. I wasn’t hard on myself for failure, I noted what happened (emotional trauma, stress, alcohol) and prepared myself for the next attempt.

    I wanted to quit, so when I relapsed it’s not because I wanted to smoke but because those little cancer stick bastards were trying hardest to kill me. But if they were going to be tough, I could be tougher. I found it easier when I could see the cigs as my enemy.


  • mranachi@aussie.zonetoScience Memes@mander.xyzTiny pp
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    1 year ago

    Look, I don’t want to disagree with your point… But I can’t stand by as you suggest that we evolved from cave men… We may have created civilisations, but we’ve not evolved into a civilized creature… We’re still as uncooked as were 60k years ago.


  • 10 years ago I learnt that southern New Zealand slang uses bespoke or custom as an indicator of poor quality. Someone shittly welded a tow ball onto their car, that’s a ‘custom job’.

    Your poorly assembled second hand IKEA bookshelf that’s falling apart and well fucked? A bespoke piece of furniture.

    Those words have never bothered me since. Thanks kiwis.