The first therapist I saw happened to be really good, or maybe I was really ready to hear her, possibly both. One thing she mentioned and really affected me at the time: observing how I expressed how guilty I felt about how mad I was about XYZ, that often the “secondary” feelings (guilt) give us more trouble than the primary feeling (anger). This helped me start to drill down into what my actual feeling/reaction to XYZ was, and I could feel less plagued/affected by the guilt/shame/whatev that had been drilled into my head over time (by mom, teachers, whomever).

I went to one therapist in my late 20s for about 6 months, then in mid/late 30s spoke with 2 different psychiatrists and 2 different talk therapists / social workers, plus have experienced 3 different couples counselors (oh joy). Some are not a good fit. I recommend trying someone for a few sessions — at least 3 — and then allowing yourself to try a different person. They will not be offended!

I agree with you about the logistics difficulty. But there are many in power who are pretty clearly working toward implementing those steps lined up above, even as they’re incredibly inefficient and buffoonish. Many people, both “docile” and whatever may be perceived as “out-of-line”-ers, have been punished already, for years, and there’s no sign of stopping from those in power.

To the authoritarian buffoons, the end game is: riches for me, enslavement/extermination for thee, all to run from their weird daddy issues.

I’m into it honestly 🥲

The tube works pretty well though

me toooo hi 👋

Also this is mostly all to say, I don’t understand genres past say release year 2005 😅

Sorry I typed Limp Bizmit but meant Bizkit…

It’s not very intuitive, for sure. It really is about if you were there at the time and probably place (up until, say, 2005) hearing XYZ song/style becoming popular on the radio and mass media. Only then do you pick up the lingo and see how other people referred to it.

Plus, go browse the racks at a music store in another country (preferably where the main language is different from your own). I remember seeing a Tower Records in a major Japanese city have a whole area designated as “Black Music” (not like a seasonal feature/display, but a section/‘genre’) and being baffled, like all soul blues funk R&B early rap gangsta rap and dance pop was all one section (filtered only by skin color)? But then again, is all J-pop or K-pop always the same style, or do English-language listeners lump a lot of things together by overarching basic criteria? (Like just shuffling music off based on country/language of origin etc)

Alternative rock was different to the popular rock from on mainstream stations in the 70s/80s and early 90s. See also “college rock.” But then alternative rock becomes mainstream and fractures into subgenres (for example, compare Limp Bizmit once called “nü rock” and White Stripes “garage rock” — fairly different styles), less mainstream artists continue plugging away in their various “indie” lanes, plus what does “college rock” (like REM of the 80s) mean in the 2010s/2020s anyway? Short answer: big fat nothing; long answer is, first you start doing deep dives in music journalism of yore, browsing the categories/sections at record stores, talk to old music heads and hear their opinions (mostly opinions, right, less ‘facts’), and then you have a better lay of the many various musical landscapes and keep exploring.

Hypothetically, if they are truly professional and in operations rather than being analysts, etc., they would leave work at work but basically be too exhausted to truly helicopter-parent at home. I’m projecting a bit though, because once you become a parent you are exhausted beyond belief (substitute “I” for all those “you”s, heh)

Depends on the generation of the parent too, I think (have they kept up with modern surveillance technologies?). If you haven’t watched the TV show “The Americans” it could be interesting. Set in the 80s but there’s two kid/teen children of agents in it, so secrets kind of start going both ways

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IME in the past few months the swiping word-predictions have gotten markedly worse — it makes me wonder if there’s more “phoning home” going on (input data being sent back) or perhaps AI analysis being crammed in. I have no verification on this though.

Aren’t you supposed to say “I rest my case” at the end of your argument, not before you start it?

To be honest I hadn’t listened to or seen Charlie Kirk before he was shot dead, because his whole thing was hateful grift which I cannot tolerate any more in my life. But I have dealt with American health and dental insurance companies for more than 20 years. They purport to be civil when, in the system as it is now (with political lobbying) they can ruin lives. Charlie Kirk spewed hate pretty freaking directly, so someone threw it back at him. Insurance companies are insulated behind layers of fake smile, fake concern for consumers’ health, false scarcity — while lobbying politicians and arguing with medical professionals — all ONLY for boardroom profits, all crushing the entire populace if there’s no other prospect for a social safety net. For massively overinflating shit that in other countries (not just “poor”-GDP ones) is like 1% of the cost to the patient. Health for everyone, as a sector/concept in our lives, is more pressing than stupid grifters trying to rile up stupid white people. The effect of grifters riling up stupid white people is obviously awful. But I don’t want to hear any more of stupid white people telling me racist hogwash. I want to be able to get medicine for my kid. Right?

What are you talking about? Hasn’t the victim just dropped her kid off at school?

Waiting to see what others answer because got no actual hobbies since having kids…