the demarcation line [that] the parties undertook not to violate … was fixed. It was stipulated that Russia renounced any encroachment on the territory to the west of that demarcation. This was pure PR on the part of the United States because they knew perfectly well that Russia had no such thing in mind.
So we’re at this point in the story now. So weird that Europe and Ukraine don’t seem to trust Russia /s
Invite them to do something with you, bonus if it’s something that’s best to do in spring or summer because that gives you time to save.
For example:
I’m using a boox. I dislike their built-in library tools, but it’s just an e-ink android tablet, so I installed a simple launcher and download whatever apps I want, including Libby.
Why wait if you know what you want?
The short answer:
What you want will still be there in a few years from now. However the life phase 18-25 will only happen once. Embrace it, enjoy it, if you do it right it will be the times that you look back on together when you’re older with a smile and nostalgia. You will also be better parents later, with more emotional maturity and greater financial stability.
The long answer:
You’re asking whether 20 is too young to marry. You should be asking whether 18 is too young, since she is even younger than you are. In almost all circumstances, I would say you are both too young. The only exception could be if you live in a culture where she needs to marry to leave her parents house. Even then, she should be cautious, because in cultures like that a marriage could end up trapping her more. You may not intend to trap her, but if divorce is taboo in your culture, that taboo is generally even stronger for women, and it is a risk that you should protect her from.
What concerns me more than msrriage is your talk about wanting to start a family. You’re definitely both too young for that to be a good idea, either for you or your kids.
If your relationship is strong, it doesn’t require a marriage licence, and there is no need to rush having kids. Your late teens and early twenties are formative years in which you will both grow incredibly. It’s an important period of independence from your parents during which you can explore the world and your place in it, but also a period to have fun and do crazy, silly, exciting things. Go to parties, go bungee jumping, go live and work in another part of the world for a year and visit all the neighbouring countries with the money you earn. Test your limits and learn about yourselves and each other. If the 2 of you can successfully navigate this life stage together, growing in parallel rather than apart, you will have an incredibly strong basis for your future lives together. If you can’t - which is sadly the case for many relationships - a marriage licence won’t save the relationship, and if anything could lead to feelings of being trapped, regret, and ultimately resentment. I know that’s difficult to imagine in this exciting, head-over-heels in love phase of your relationship, but that’s the point - this phase will pass and only then will you find out whether this relationship can endure.
I know only 1 couple who have been together since highschool and are still happily married today in their mid 50s. They didn’t marry until their mid twenties and waited to have their child until after that. They’re one of my favourite couples and hands-down some of the best parents I know. Their relationship is lovely and they have raised a kind, thoughtful, independent child. They could successfully achieve this because they allowed themselves time and space to grow and experience the world, and had the financial stability and emotional maturity to raise a child well.
PS: This couple went to Paris for a year in their mid 20s, and I went to London for 2 years in my early 20s. I cannot over-emphasise what an incredible life experience something like that is. I expected to learn about the English - and I did - but I learned even more about myself and my home country, in a place where the unspoken, unconscious societal rules were suddenly different. I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.
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Ooh, useful template, thanks 😁
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In Switzerland Galaxus overtook Amazon years ago. Brack appears to be improving lately, offering faster delivery options.
I don’t want to end up with a duplicate Amazon problem though, so for 3rd party sellers on Galaxus, if they have their own website, I often buy directly from them.
A different google account in the private space.
My grandfather on my mom’s side owned a farm. My mom was a teacher with a lot more time off than my dad, so pretty much every school holiday we would stay with my grandfather for a while. There was no real structure, just go play outside, stay on the farm, be back for dinner, and let an adult know if you were going to walk to the neighbours (through the fields, nowhere near a road).
Oh, and don’t eat the mullberries! I always came back with purple stains everywhere, claiming I didn’t have any mulberries lol
There was a dam to go swimming, dogs and chickens in the yard, pigs, cows, maize fields, luzern fields, and what felt like endless long sunny days.
I don’t think it’s possible to relive that feeling of utter freedom as an adult, plus my grandfather passed away and the farm was sold decades ago now. Some things are better kept as memories, I think.
Currently everything in owner, with banking apps in my private space.
I was tempted by the idea of owner as an app repo but the private space is only available in the owner profile.
Someone else in this thread mentioned they were using another device for their app repo and sideloading from there. That’s an intriguing idea for keeping even sandboxed Google off my owner profile. An idea for the future maybe.
There are a couple of apps that work just for ticket files (.pkpass). I’m currently using FOSS wallet. Catima works too but I didn’t love the layout.
I’ve been following this community for a while now and have not yet found the courage to selfhost anything.
I find the answers generally either assume a lot of knowledge, or throw out a single solution provider (synology, nextcloud, yunohost). Neither of these approaches helps me advance the big picture overview that I’m lacking, or a way of evaluating what the best setup is for me. I’ve started drafting an overview document for myself with the vague idea of asking for feedback here but I’m not sure such a request would be welcome.
So, yes, I would be interested in a solution that makes self-hosting more accessible.
Direct war with Russia would be far worse for the German population. It is much cheaper to fight a proxy war via Ukraine and try to avoid war themselves.
Also, they are ramping up their own defense capabilities so a lot of this money will presumably flow back to German companies, and therefore German jobs.
That 1st one is a bit mean 👀😂
Insurance mathematics and Swiss Insurance Regulations, baby (bet you’re all jealous now).
Also, learning German as an adult.
I really need some better hobbies
How to know when stats is taking over your life ☝️
That’s really specific
The reduced risk in STIs has been disproven, to my knowledge.
I don’t think there is much to say to that, other than a genuine “I’m happy for you that you have never had to struggle with depression. I hope you stay healthy, I wouldn’t wish this illness on anyone.”
My best advice is, don’t try to change your mom’s mind. Instead, focus on your own beliefs, and find a way to accept that she isn’t ready to do the same and may never be.
Some things that might help you:
1) Understand that criticism can be a form of love, especially from our parents
When people who love us criticise us, it’s usually because they want us to improve. It’s not just to make you feel bad. Instead the feelings of shame are intended to motivate you to do better because they want you to be the best version of yourself.
It’s not effective, and it hurts, but it helps me to reframe criticism in that way. Ask yourself, who made the comment, and why do you think they did so? If it’s someone you don’t respect, ot you think just wanted to be nasty, ignore it. If it’s someone that you believe cares about you, ask yourself whether it could be an inefficient expression of caring. If the latter, let go of the hurt as inefficient, and try to consider objectively whether they may have a point, and what (if anything) you can or want to do about it.
2) Create and live a definition of value that you believe to be true.
Sadly, modern society teaches that our worth is based on our productivity and our school / work success. It sounds as if your mom may have internalised this belief, and it’s possible that a lot of her own self esteem relies on it. That’s why it could be very difficult for her to let go of. You can though.
Ask yourself, who are the people in your life that you value, that you care about? Consider them one at a time and ask yourself why they matter to you. You will notice very quickly that your answers have nothing to do with their productivity or their success. It will be their kindness, their sense of humour, their reliability, the way a smile lights up their face, etc.
Then ask yourself, how well do I embody these characteristics that I value in others? Try to be true to your definition of value, and feel empathy for those people who believe the lie that only productivity enriches our society.
**3) Accept that depression creates a burden for the people around you and try to minimise it
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It’s not your fault that you’re ill, but that doesn’t make it any easier for the people around you. Mental illness is a reason for struggling with certain things, not an excuse to dump the burden on others.
The low energy of depression means you need to prioritise what you do. Some of it should be activities that make you feel better, like going into nature, keeping a gratitude journal, or phoning a friend. Some of it needs to be being a good friend, partner, and child. Figure out what the other person needs and how much you can do.
Why did your mom mention laziness? Was it frustration at something she expected from you that you aren’t doing? Can you negotiate and agree lower expectations from her? A discussion to understand her priorities could help diffuse some of her frustration.
Hopefully something in this helped you. Good luck.